Sister on a Mission

Kofi Annan in Kansas City

2006-12-13T23:19:00.000-06:00

Kofi Annan gave his farewell speech in Independence, Missouri this week (the KC suburb from which Harry S. Truman hails). It was one of the most amazing speeches I've ever heard.

Annan is a cosumate diplomat and always well-spoken, but this speech combined genuine concern, sincerity, and the best slams on the Bush administration since Hugo Chavez graced the podium at the general assembly. It was incredible. Of course Hugo was about as diplomatic as an AK-47....

Anyway, Annan spoke of five lessons he's learned while serving as Secretary General of the UN. The first was that everyone's security is related to everyone else's security. One country cannot have security at the expense of depriving another country of the same.

Second, we are responsible to some degree for each other's welfare. At least in offering equal opportunities. The world cannot continue when some people are getting massively rich off of globalization and others have no opportunities but to starve. A system that lopsided will never work.

Third, both prosperity and security depend on the respecting of human rights and the rule of law.
We must be willing to stand up for those things, whether they are being denied by inter-country conflict or by tyrants abusing their own populations.

Fourth, all governments must be held accountable for their actions - not just the poor ones and not just enemies of the US.

Fifth, situations in the world must be addressed in multilateral ways and the institutions through which that occurs must be organized and run democratically, giving the weak and poor nations some measure of say-so.

What a brilliant and sincere man. He is truly calling for a return to the ideals and vision (American, btw) that created the UN. He is appealing to America for selfless leadership and responsible actions in a world where the balance of power is so lopsided that the only thing that can couterbalance it is responsible, sane and concensus-oriented leadership.

You can read Monday's farewell speech here: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/12/10/AR2006121000768.html?nav=r ss_opinion/columns

And listen to it here:
http://www.kcur.org/UTDarchive.html

The date of the broadcast was Monday, Dec. 11, 2006

Turkey and the Pope

2006-11-26T12:45:00.001-06:00

I heard on NPR this morning that Turkey is all aflutter owing to the pope's scheduled visit. He originally planned the visit to improve Roman Catholic relations with the Eastern Orthodox church, but since his unfortunate comments and the unfortunate reaction to them a few months ago, he'll also have some Muslim/Christian issues to deal with.

One of the interesting aspects of this story was how the reporter described the 100,000-strong Christian minority in Turkey. She explained that priests are not allowed to wear their frocks in public nor to train new clerics, etc. What she didn't mention is that Muslims are similarly discriminated against. Women who wear hijab are not allowed to attend university or serve in parliment. Europe is leaning this way as well: French Muslimahs are not allowed to wear hijab to school and the Dutch have outlawed niqab.

The truth is that Turkey is going through the same secularist identity crisis that much of Western Europe is experiencing. The gov't wants to be so secular that it is trying to erase religion alltogether. Of course Ataturk began this process in Turkey by outlawing the fez, the niqab, Arabic script and other traditions/forms of ibadaat. Westerners call this "REFORM". But when it is Christians on the receiving end it is "oppression".

The elusive balance that neither Europe nor Turkey seem to be able to strike is the basis of true freedom. Respecting human rights and living in freedom means that everyone be allowed to practice his faith freely, not that you outlaw anyone's faith. Europe and Turkey both need to get their brains (and their policies) around that concept.

And Dear Fatah......

2006-05-22T10:46:00.000-05:00

The following is an open letter to Fatah, which follows my open letter to Hamas.

Dear Fatah,

AsSalaamu Alaikum, brothers and sisters. I just heard a report that the infighting on the ground in Gaza is getting worse. A wounded Fatah official vowed revenge against Hamas, who he's sure executed a bombing/assasination attempt this weekend. "We are the authority! They will never have authority!" he insisted.

Brothers, please think about what's happening here. Divide and conquer is the oldest trick in the book. And you all are playing directly into the hands of the Zionists by dutifully going at each other's throats.

And there is so much at stake here!

Your homeland, your constituents, your families, your livilihoods, the very soul of Palestine is being ripped apart by the Zionists and you are helping them.

Petty authority is worthless. Leadership is what your people need. And that's a whole other subject. It takes vision, sacrifice, patience and courage. It takes caring more about your people than you care about yourselves. It takes leaders who dread that responsiblity, not clamour after "authority".

If Fatah and Hamas were to combine forces and lead - truly lead - the Palestinian people, no oppressor could stand in your way. If you lead your people to put down their useless conventional weapons and pick up the mantle of moral armor that is Nonviolent Resistance, there would be no stopping you. You could bring the mighty Zionist army, with all its tanks and apache helicopters and F15 fighter jets and nuclear weapons to its knees.

Killing a soldier here and a non-soldier there is doing nothing but sabatoging your own efforts and endangering your own souls. Fighting and killing your fellow Palestinians is just a cause for the Zionists to have a good chuckle over their morning coffee. At some point someone has to lead. Someone has to overcome their own nafs and steer Palestine in the direction that such a noble people deserve to go.

I know it is comlicated. I know the culture of weapons is deeply entrenched. I know there are para-military factions that are not easily controlled. But I also know that a movement of active nonviolence could catch on, once people see the results it will bring.

Nonviolence is not the coward's way out. It is not a tactic of people who preach peace at any cost. It is a potent weapon to use against an enemy that thrives on visiting others with the same horror the last generation of their own people suffered. It is the loudest way to demand justice for Palestine. And once justice is achieved, then peace will be the natural outcome.

IF you and Hamas keep leading instead of vying for authority.

Dear Hamas

2006-05-15T22:53:00.000-05:00

The following is an open letter to the leadership of Hamas and the new Palestinian government:

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

AsSalaamu Alaikum. I'm writing to discuss with you some possible policies for your new administration.

Since 1987 your organization and all of Palestine have been actively fighting the injustice and oppression of the illegal occupation of Palestinian lands. This is a legitimate and laudable goal but I would like to suggest some more effective ways for you to go about it.

The history of your struggle against the Zionist state basically looks like a contest. One side attacks, then the other side, then the other. But the Zionists have much of the world's media - especially US media - in their pockets. So the way events get covered, in the US especially, makes it look like the Zionists attack a legitimate Palestinian target, perhaps "accidentally" kill a few civilians in the process, and then one Palestinian group or another retaliates by bombing a bus or a hotel or other civilian target. The result is that the entire conflict gets boiled down to who kills more civilians. And since the Zionist "incursions" are not properly covered, it often looks like Hamas and other Palestinian organizations are taking the cheap shots at civilians. So the most effective weapon in America - Public Opinion - is swayed against Palestine.

This is a very decisive moment in history. Your organization has just been elected to take the reigns and possibly change the direction of the Palestinian state. I would like to urge you to consider adopting a strict policy of ABSOLUTE NONVIOLENCE, like Badshah Khan, Mahatma Ghandi and Martin Luther King, Jr. These men led revolutions that outsted oppressors, defeated tyrants and won civil rights for people who had been treated as second class citizens for literally centuries.

I'm not suggesting this because I don't believe you have a right to fight for your homeland - I'm suggesting this because I believe that nonviolence is the most effective weapon at your disposal with which to conduct that fight.

If Palestinians, under your leadership, simply stood their ground and demanded their rights, without attacking anyone, it would not be possible to boil the issue down to a simple "deuling body count" on the evening news, like it is now. The world would come face-to-face with who the real bullies are. The spotlight would be shifted to the Zionist state, which would be caught red-handed killing, maiming and looting from all the people of Palestine. You could even take some of the money that is currently being spent on arms and buy small video cameras and computers for Palestinian journalists to document and upload the truth of what's going on at ground level.

Not only do I believe that these tactics would be effective, but if your jihad is powerfully nonviolent, ALL those who die at the hands of the Zionists would attain the status of shaheed, whereas now some people are facing the hereafter having killed civilians who might just have been innocent.

Your government could go down in history as the first Muslim nation to use the weapons of righteousness and public opinion together to defeat an oppressive and racist regime.

Please consider taking this courageous step.

sisteronamission

Who's the Terrorist?

2006-05-15T09:39:00.000-05:00

When I was speaking at a university last month about Islam, one of the
audience members asked me if I thought Hamas was a terrist organization.

To answer that question we have to define terrorism. According to the
American Heritage Dictionary, terrorism is "The unlawful use or
threatened use of force or violence by a person or an organized group
against people or property with the intention of intimidating or
coercing societies or governments, often for ideological or political
reasons."

That is the exact definition of what the Zionists have been doing
to the Palestinians for 57 years. From Sabra and Shatila to Gaza and
the West Bank, violence, threats, economic strangulation and dehumanizing
oppression have been systematically used against the Palestinian people -
first to outst them and then to break them. And all of this under the
auspices of an illegal occupation.

So it is the Zionist state which the terrorist organization.

Hamas is a group of Palestinians who have been fighting an
oppressive and illegal occupation for years, using whatever methods
are at their disposal. This is not called terrorism. This is called
defending your homeland.

THAT SAID, HOWEVER....I do not agree with this strategy, and I also make a distinction between Jihad, which is the Islamically acceptable practice of
attacking soldiers at checkpoints, etc., (completely legitimate targets
according to anyone's definition of a just war)and things which don't qualify
as jihad, such as the bombing of buses, etc., where the targets are civilian
and not military. Our dear Prophet (sal Allahu Alaihi wa sallam) left us
with strict rules to follow in the conduct of jihad, and not harming
civilians, the elderly and children is one of those non-negotiable
rules. Any operation which kills civilians is a sin, not an act of
jihad. And it doesn't matter how many innocent children the Zionist
miltary kills; they are not our role models. Islam instructs us to be
above such evil, and because our morals and methods of conduct come from
Islam, we should never allow ourselves to be sucked down to their level.

Bad Apples

2006-03-03T12:30:00.000-06:00

It was one of those bright February days that reassures you it won’t be winter forever. The air was cold and crisp but the sun had that springtime cheerfulness. I was on my way home to visit my parents in central Kansas, with three kids and my mother-in-law in tow. We were enjoying the trip and decided to make a pit-stop at Peabody. I love to visit the small towns of Kansas and I thought the 1880’s Main Street would be a treat for my mother-in-law to experience. She’s visiting from overseas and by way of downtowns had only seen the big city's (where we live), which doesn’t sport much in the way of Americana.

We drove down Main Street and turned around, deciding to eat at Sharon’s Korner Kitchen. As we rounded the block to find a parking space a grey car passed us going the other direction. My kids' jaws dropped open and my youngest declared, “Mom, that guy ‘flicked’ us off!” I giggled, amused by both the way he had misspoken and by the willingness of some people to display the low level of their intellect in public. I told them to just ignore it.

But when we pulled near our parking spot on the north side of the Korner Kitchen, the guy, sporting short brown hair and vicious expression, passed us again – this time with his arm hanging out the window, at the ready. As he passed us he flipped me the bird directly in my face. “Whew!” I thought. “Some people need a hobby.” I didn’t think any more about him until we got out of our car and found him parked across Main Street, staring at us as we entered the restaurant.

I thought about our venture into Peabody. Had we done something to offend this gentleman? All we had done was drive down Main Street and stop for lunch. It had to be our scarves. I’m an American Muslim, and my mother-in-law and I both cover ourselves in the same manner that nuns traditionally do. You can’t tell by looking at me, but I’m 100% Kansas raised – the product of a long line of patriotic ancestors. My great-great-grandfather Mathew Golding served in the Union army, my grandfather was at the Battle of the Bulge, and my father was in the Air Force during Vietnam. I was even born on an Air Force Base. I’ve been Muslim for 18 years, and am proud of both my heritage and my faith, which dovetail together in a value structure of good morals and strong service. I have never encountered anyone who treated me venomously because of my faith or my manner of dress, as most Kansans are fair-minded, interested in different cultures and generous of heart. They understand that a few criminals don’t represent an entire faith.

When we sat down and looked north out the window of Sharon’s we were horrified to see our friend cross Main Street and pull into the bank parking lot north of Sharon’s and simply sit there, facing our car which was parked on the street. When he remained there several minutes it became obvious that he was waiting for us to come out.

Although I have never had cause to be afraid anywhere in Kansas, I was afraid that day. What kind of person gets a thrill out of intimidating women and children like that? What did he plan to do when we emerged from Sharon’s? But God says in the Qur’an, “Verily, with difficulty comes ease”, and ease that day came in the form of police officer Travis Wilson, who was eating his lunch at the next table. I told him our story and asked him to keep an eye on the grey car, which he gladly agreed to do, and we tried to eat our meal.

God works in mysterious ways, and that day He used one malcontent to show us the kind hearts and protective souls of Peabody. Soon Officer Wilson was joined by his mother, grandmother and nephew, who heard us telling our server about the man in the grey car. His mother told me they’d all walk us to our car if necessary.

By this time the man in the grey car, who thought he was watching us, was the most watched man in town. Everyone in the restaurant marveled at his audacity and wondered about his questionable motives. They laughed at his arrogance and reassured us that the rest of the town was not so bigoted or malevolent. They embraced us and made us feel welcome in their midst. My mother-in-law and I were almost brought to tears by their kindness and concern. We were finally able to eat a little of our wonderful lunches.

A half hour later when he was finished with his lunch, Officer Wilson drove around and pulled in next to the man in the grey car. This was enough to cause him to reconsider his plans and he hightailed it out of there PDQ. We left soon after and not only did Officer Wilson accompany us out of town, but his mother sent us off with hugs and the entire restaurant added their good wishes. While we had entered Sharon’s doubting human nature, we left glowing with the knowledge of the truth that had been reiterated to us: a few criminals don’t represent the whole, and in fact bad apples often serve to highlight the sweetness of the rest. God bless the great people of Peabody!

Murder and Muslim Don't Mix

2005-09-20T00:11:00.000-05:00

I was in Syria this summer when the London bombings occurred. At about that time there was a shoot-out in Damascus during a raid and some suspected Al Qaeda members were killed. These things, along with the daily dose of insanity from Iraq, really infuriated me. I wrote an article at the time but it was completely incoherent – I was so angry I couldn’t articulate anything.

Some time has passed now, and I am going to try my hand at articulating a little better after having pondered it all this time, but I am certainly no less angry. I am sick and bloody tired of these miscreants who think they’re serving Allah by perpetrating violence. And even though I do believe that some of the violence attributed to the shadowy “Al Qaeda” is either misattributed or flat-out set up, there obviously are some “Muslims” in the world who believe that killing innocent people is a way to gain hassanet (blessings, reward).

In reality Islam came not to destroy innocent people but to destroy the belief that killing innocent people is acceptable. Human rights, women’s rights, freedom of religion and even prisoner rights as we know them today were born with Islam. Many major provisions of the Geneva Conventions could have been taken straight out of an Islamic Law book. When Abu Bakr, the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) closest friend and the first Khalifa, sent his men into battle he advised them as the Prophet had advised him: Do not destroy crops. Do not harm women and children. Do not harm the elderly. Do not harm non-combatants. Do not harm those who have taken sanctuary in religious institutions. THAT is how Muslims conduct war.

Not by attacking night clubs or killing commuters or toppling towers.

Attacks of that nature are haram (forbidden) on so many levels! God forbids the killing of innocents, He forbids His servants from killing themselves, from using fire as a weapon, from killing other Muslims unless it is a judicially ordered capital punishment arrived at after due process……there is simply no way to twist these depraved acts into something praiseworthy, no matter how hard one might wish to try.

Now add to all that the fact that these sorts of destructive lashings out hurt regular Muslims more than anyone else. The terrorists consider us fair game because we have not crossed over to their “dark side”, the public views us with suspicion, fear and prejudice, and western governments feel free to create things like the Patriot Act to keep us in line, to shut down our legitimate charities and nonprofit organizations, and to justify whatever collateral damage “happens” when they “go after the terrorists”. Translation: regular Muslims find themselves in everyone’s crosshairs.

It’s as if Al Qaeda and the Bush administration are both working toward the same goals, just from different ends of the field. “With us or against us” is just as obtuse and ignorant and dangerous whether it comes from a cowboy president or a shady salafi. So the rest of us need to form an alliance. Regular Muslims and regular non-Muslims need to reach out to each other. Because then we’ll have a means of fighting back. We can fight violence with peaceful refusal to give in to it. We can fight ignorance with relationships. And we can fight extremism with solid understanding. If we endeavor to create a strong community of regular people will we be able to defeat the hotheads among us – whether they wear spurs or turbans.

What Americans Stand For (And What We Don't)

2005-07-02T03:54:00.000-05:00

The American Embassy is a lonely place these days.

The stucco walls and strong steel fence remember better times, though. Times when hope and determination laced the breeze like the smell of baby talc - promising new beginnings and endless possibilities for the young people standing every day in the endless line. They knew that when their turn finally came their future would begin. A chance to make their way to a land where everyone is respected for what he himself has to offer, not for what his father offered; where no wastaw is needed to get into school and one might reinvent himself into what he's learned he really wants to be. Love, too, and a future family might await one on those shores. All these dreams wove a spell of hope and whispered prayers around the stark white building so strong that sometimes even the taciturn guards were affected enough to smile.

Now all that remains is the dappled sunlight on the empty sidewalk, reflecting off the security cameras and the guards' guns. Lady Liberty has spent the past five years disassembling the dreams of those who once believed in her - both those in the hopeful lines and those born under her skirts. Foreigners of certain persuasions are no longer welcome, rights of her own sons and daughters are being limited and stripped away altogether, sacrificed wholesale on the alter of security until her very identity is twisted into something closed, wary and unrecognizable.

In one way the clamping down of the American borders is no surprise. When nations feel threatened they often turn to the right - so sharply that the effect is of a person with his right foot nailed to the floor, flailing endlessly in right-handed circles until he dies of exhaustion and spiritual starvation. But the reason it is so astonishing in our current times is that we had convinced ourselves that we knew better. We had looked to history's abundant examples and had sworn, "Never again." From Rome's tutorial on imperialism and implosion to Germany's hard-fought lessons that exclusion and racism breed malignancy and death for nations as a whole, to Japan's well-learned lesson that too much aggression results in being visited with the same, we congratulated ourselves on having enough wisdom and morality to avoid others' mistakes. Apparently, though, we didn't really learn from the mistakes we were so smug about. Maybe these are lessons a nation must live to really learn?

In the meantime, my government refuses visas to entire nations full of hopeful young men and women, and people in my own family contend that even illegal aliens from our neighboring states (not the rich one to the north - we don' t mind them) should be deported. "They're not 'undocumented workers', they're ILLEGAL ALIENS - they are breaking the law by being here...." They may be worthy of our passing pity, but they certainly don't deserve to share in our blessings of opportunity and abundance. Those are ours and we have every right to horde them for ourselves. Maybe people have to have actually lived somewhere where they see real want, real poverty, real despair, and the universality of hard work, hope and determination, in order to understand the obscenity and futility of that attitude. God does not grant a people the great blessings we Americans enjoy as a special favor for having been born in one place rather than another. He grants them as a test - a test our nation is failing. Those who have are obliged to share with those who don't - not just with string-laden "foreign aid", but with genuinely open hearts and arms. On so many levels we are not doing this; rather we are building walls around our riches. We exclude and even attack those who don't have money and those who don't have freedom, and then contend that everyone hates us because of our material blessings and our freedom. Most amazingly, the irony is lost on a large number of flag-waving, "Support Our Troops" demanding Americans.

America has responded to perceived threats from the outside by circling the wagons and protecting what is "ours". By blaming others' belief structures and striking out against faceless millions and redefining liberty as something that exists only within the constricted confines of the misleadingly-named "Patriot Act" instead of engaging in self-reflection and systematically hunting down the criminals responsible. Our worst tendencies are being allowed to run amok. We are becoming like the regimes we purport to hate. We are sabotoging the very values we claim to stand for. And we are trying to reorganize the globe by force. The result is that more people hate us now than ever did before, and with good reason. They may not harm us; we may not suffer the results of their frustration. God willing we will never see another terrorist attack. But if we continue on the path this administration has marked out for us - if dissent and discussion continue to be viewd as threats instead of the pillars of democracy that they really are; if we continue to horde our blessings and deprive others of the same, if we continue to try to orchestrate "democracy" by manipulation or force in the lands of those who are not our allies while we allow selfish, moniacal dictators to flourish as long as they do our bidding, and if more real Americans who know what our country stands for don't speak up - we will still die the slow, painful, inevitable death that results from walking in selfish, lonely, right-handed circles.

Women Get the Vote in Kuwait

2005-05-19T00:55:00.000-05:00

I know a dear sister who has lived in Kuwait for almost 20 years. She has been commenting recently with some surprise at the Western media's playing up of the "great push" for and receipt of suffrage rights for women in Kuwait.

It seems that in reality this was not something the women were pushing for at all. On the contrary it was a small group of vocal, Westophile feminists and their male cohorts who are trying to kiss Bush Administration backside who were doing all the pushing. The average Kuwaiti woman on the street was not the least bit interested in gaining the right to vote. No parties where held, no women in offices congratulated each other, and women from from engineers to graphic designers to housewives all responded with disdain when asked about this wonderous event. In fact, calls for women to strike and rally on a certain day running up to the decision gathered a whopping *fourteen* attendees and a scheduled "mock vote" was canceled due to feared lack of attendance.

My friend says that the reason Kuwaiti women have not been up in arms about voting is because in every measurable category they enjoy a far better, fairer life than we do in the West. All the things that women traditionally come out to vote for - education (both quality of education for children and equal access to education for women), health care, child care, cost of living, etc. - are well taken care of for our Kuwaiti sisters. Families are given a stipend from the government upon marriage which increases with each child born, they enjoy free health care, free education, subsidized housing and utilities, and most women attend university. They are not oppressed like their Saudi sisters; they are allowed to drive, choose their own level of hijab and work outside the home without undue restrictions. In other words, Kuwaiti women feel sufficiently respected and listened to, and didn't feel a need to press for the right to vote at this time.

Another friend of ours pointed out, rightly, that just because women have it good today doesn't mean that they always will, and that it is always best for a society when all its citizens are allowed to vote.

I think that is a point well taken, but something still bothers me. Call me cynical but this whole thing seems to have been played for the Western media. I don't disagree that women should have the right to vote, but I think the reasons behind this newly gained right in Kuwait are suspect. It seems that some of those pushing for it long to be seen as progressive, modern and Western - when it was ISLAM that first guaranteed women the right to participate as fully independent entities in the political life of their communities. Muslim women made Baya' with Rasoolullah (salAllahu alaihi wa sallam) independently of their spouses: Jewish and Christian women would struggle for thirteen more centuries to be granted that basic human right. According to orthodox Jewish law women are STILL unable to make contracts or give testimony of any kind, because they are considered property of their husbands and not independent, thinking beings of worth on their own. But misinformed Muslim women all over the globe are scrambling to have others think of them as "modern" and "equal" because they follow the West's every whim and fad.

And that's the thing: very often these struggles for things like voting rights (which is an Islamic right) go hand in hand with taking off hijab and otherwise appearing Western, "modern", "civilized". The Kuwaiti women fighting for the vote wore Western clothes, lightened their hair and sported tshirts that read, *in English*, "We're Kuwaiti too". Their movement was made up mostly of women who seem to have left the deen behind them. But what these "Muslim feminists" don't realize is that in order to have a society that is fair to women, the Jews and Christians had to stray from their scripture. Whereas Islam already provided all those rights to women, but during and after colonial times many Muslim countries deviated away from their religion, and the natural result was injustice. See? Jews and Christians deviate from their scripture in order to achieve fairness, but in Islam it's the deviating which results in unfairness.

Another reason these sorts of media frenzies bother me is that these issues seem to be somewhat imposed from the outside and from a small, elite group on the inside. And that is NOT what democracy is about. This event, just like the Cedar Revolution, feels to me like some elaborately staged Bushesque theatre. My friend's family knows a woman who met with Condaleza Rice a few years ago in Washington, and the delegation of women she was with were told that they had to work for the vote because the Bush administration wanted it. Now it's T-minus a few weeks until the Kuwaiti Prime Minister is scheduled to visit Washington, and voila, "The Vote". That is suspicious enough in itself, but it gets even downright sinister: in order to pass this ammendment the Kuwaiti parliment had to agree to a pay raise of about $160 *per month* for every Kuwaiti who works for the government or is on a pension. In English, we call that a bribe.

This is one of my biggest criticisms of the Bush administration: it attempts to impose its twisted version of democracy by hook or by crook or by force, whichever way it can; killing, maiming, lying, cheating and stealing along the way. This entire women's vote thing feels like nothing more than a red herring Bush has arranged so he can point to Kuwait and say, "See, democracy is indeed spreading in the ME because of our 'foreign policy'". When in reality, there is nothing less democratic in the world.

So I am not jumping up and down because Kuwaiti women can vote. Not because I don't want them to be able to do so, but because I fear the reasons for the change.

Why Don't Muslim Women Support Amina Wadud?

2005-03-23T12:31:00.000-06:00

There's been a lot of bru-ha-ha in the past couple of days about Amina Wadud and her efforts to fight for Muslim women's rights by purportedly acting as the first female imam in history. While the Western feminists are all over this and the Progressive Muslim Union (PMU) has helped create a media spectacle surrounding it, this is not an issue that regular Muslim women support or even care about. Why?

To Americans it seems an important step for Muslims toward "joining the 21st century". To fringe groups like the PMU is seems like a great opportunity to show Americans that we're "just like them". But to most Muslims - even Muslim women - it seems like much ado about nothing important.

As far as women's rights issues go, there are so many real issues that could be fought for - so many more important areas to spend one's energy on. Muslim women in some areas of Africa still suffer the horrors of radical circumcision - a practice left over from pre-Islamic times that destroys women's bodies and indeed their very identities. There are Muslim women who are illiterate and have no access to learning. There are Muslim women whose entire existence is marred by fear for their very lives, with Israeli or American or Indian or Russian missiles and soldiers breaking violently into their homes and killing their children and family members. There are Muslim women who are prevented by war or poverty or ignorant misogyny from accessing medical care for themselves and their children. And there are millions of misinformed Westerners who think that all those circumstances are caused by Islam itself rather than destructive economic systems, unfair foreign policy decisions made by their own leaders or deliberately ignorant Muslim men (who have deviated from their religion and enforce their deviation in order to maintain the delusion of their own superiority, much like skinheads).

Into the middle of all this injustice lands Amina Wadud, and she decides to spend her time fighting fiercely for...women's right to lead the prayer? Could there possibly be a more frivolous issue? The only people who care about it are the liberal Christians and the secular feminists. I even know a Catholic nun who says the same thing when accused of cowardice by some women in her own faith for not joining their struggle to get women ordained as priests: "If I'm going to fight for something, I'm going to fight for something meaningful - something that really helps women!" she declares. (And she does!)

And that's the crux of the matter. Wadud and her cohorts might really believe that women leading prayers would somehow improve women's status, but that's because for all their advanced degrees, they lack a basic understanding of Islam. They are chasing after the feminist dream of erasing gender roles - but that's not a Muslim dream. Not because Muslims are backward, but because it's not a healthy goal. It is a dream born of a sick society where only men and men's roles were valued. Their answers are not our answers.

There is wisdom and a primer for society in the way the prayers are performed. Men in front, protecting, serving and leading their families and communities. Women bringing up the rear - disciplining, nurturing and teaching the children, making sure they don't fall out of line or out of love in the community, and protecting them from the back-door dangers of the world - like doubt and negative peer pressure - with unflinching love and care. And the young men and women in the middle - secure and protected from all sides while they learn and grow into mature adults who will take their complimentary places in the community when they come of age.

This formula reflects a healthy society where men's and women's roles are different but both are respected. Where men and women have complimentary rights and responsibilities. Where men stick around and raise their families with kindness and piety. Where women are educated and independent, and participate in the life of the community just like the men, but don't abandon their responsibilities to their children and spouses in search of "self fulfillment". The dream and efforts of all Muslims should be to fully implement THAT system. Not to run around showing the dysfunctional Westerners how eager we are to implement theirs.

PAUL WOLFOWITZ??

2005-03-16T16:52:00.000-06:00

Paul Wolfowitz to head the World Bank??!

Welcome to stage three of the neocon plot to take over the world.

Get your "Member of the New World Order" t-shirts now.

(Of course the back has a huge red target on it.)

muslim momma's interview

2005-03-15T11:33:00.000-06:00

Muslim momma blogged me these interview questions!!

1. Did you find it hard to raise you kids here in the US?

Well....it's an ongoing thing, ya know? But I found it just as hard in Syria and Saudi. There are just different pressures. I almost like it here better b/c we can look at the larger society and say, "We don't do stuff drink and flirt and hook up because we're Muslims" and it's a very easily identifiable differentiation. Overseas when people do bad or dangerous stuff you can't say, "They're not Muslims" because ostensibly they are. Know what I mean?

2. What prompted you to start lecturing on Islam to non-Muslims?

Amina Assilmi. I saw her speak when I was very first Muslim and I said, "I wanna do that some day!"

3. What is your favorite food?

Sushi! And my secret vice is potato chips. Au Gratin or Flamin' Hot Lays! I loved the "California Dill" ones but they don't make them anymore.

4. Do you have big plans for when your kids leave the house and you become an empty nester?

To do activism full time, go to school, and go see the kids insha'Allah.

5. Do you find it hard to balance your personal interests with being a wife and mother?

Absolutely. I suffer from chronic Taffy Syndrome. I always feel pulled. When I'm at work I feel like I should be home and when I'm home I feel like I should be at work. But it's gotten better since I was sick last month and had to make some priority decisions and let some stuff go, alhamdulillah.

Propaganda

2005-03-14T17:17:00.000-06:00

I spoke about Islam at a homemakers' club last week. The audience consisted of about 30 retired ladies who have had their club for about 30 years. They were wonderful and asked tons of interesting questions. One question, though, got me to thinking....

One lady asked, "Why are Muslim schoolchildren taught to hate America?"

I was completely taken aback. No one ever asked me that before, and I've been lecturing about Islam for over ten years. It goes to show that our president's "They hate us because we're free" drivel is reaching its target audience.

The amazing thing about this question is that the lady honestly believed its premise. It never even occured to her that this was a part of her own government's propaganda. That the question itself proved that Americans are being taught to hate - or at least fear - Muslims.

I answered with a long-winded explanation about wartime propaganda and reminded them of how we were convinced by our teachers and government that the USSR was this grey, dreary, freezing, colorless place populated by a bunch of babushkas who did nothing but stand in bread lines, work at antiquated factories and read fake news put out by their oppressive government. Then when the iron curtain came down we suddenly realized that Russia et al was a colorful place where the rest of the world had been vacationing for years, with castles and rich history and beautiful young women. I told her the Islamic world was something like that. A regular place where people lived and worked and raised their families, and that while they had their share of propaganda too, and while there is also justified frustration and anger at the US for its double standards and destructive foreign policies, they are not sitting around teaching their children to hate America any more than we are teaching our children to hate Muslims.

The irony is, though, that we obviously are.

Answers to Izzy Mo's Questions

2005-03-13T13:21:00.000-06:00

OK, I checked Izzy Mo's blog this morning and she did indeed answer UZ's questions. So here are my answers to her questions!

Najiyah

1) Sister on a mission, what are plans for your new blog? (Congratulations on your new blog and your article getting published in Azizah Magazine).

Thanks!! (BTW I know I owe you a book review, too! I'm on it, really I am.) My blog is evolving. Into what, I'm not sure yet. My original idea was to make it a place where I can write out all those things I scream at my radio when NPR plays a clip of our esteemed president (minus the cuss-words). I don't know if that's what it will end up being or not. I'd like it to be a place where non-Muslims can stop by and go, "Hey, that makes sense. Those Mozlems aren't as out there as I thought they were."

2) As far as for sifting through the “war on terror” propaganda, how are you going to address the lies about our foreign policy in America?

Like any other salmon trying to swim up Niagra Falls - one lie at a time. But notice there's nothing on my blog yet about that stuff...b/c I'm still sifting and seeing what I want to address first. You can't just jump in the middle and start talking about things....or can you?

3) Are you a writer or editor of any hometown publications or newspapers?

I'm the copy editor and a contributor to the new KC newsletter (I'm not even sure what they're calling it, lol) that is being published by a sister and her dh. They're aiming for an audience of Muslims and non-Muslims in the local area. I have also published the school newsletter for several years. I do the articles, the layout, the formatting, the printing and the distributing. It's really a small-time thing and no one reads it.

4) What does “Islamic activism” mean to you?

Hmmm. Being pro-active in getting our voice out there in as many modes as possible. Sometimes that means organizing poetry readings, sometimes it means writing to the Mayor of London to thank him for his non-Islamophobic stances, sometimes it means talking to church or university groups. Just always, always be "on", talking about Islam at every opportunity.

5) Do you think that writing is the best way to combat the menace of Islamophobia or are there other effective means?

See above. Although I'd love to get an article published in a mainstream mag. I'm thinking of sending query letters to Redbook, Ladies' Home Journal, things of that ilk. To reach a lot of non-Muslims.

The thing is, Westerners have such a big blind spot they don't even notice it's there. You can't even talk to people unless they understand that they don't understand. Many people do but many others don't. :-(

Back to the frustration zone....

You know, I was once in a halaqah w/Sh. Mohammad Hilali. He was talking about the tafsir of Surat al Baqarah. He was saying how we humans would have looked at the situation of Bani Israel in Egypt and immediately said, "Let's go rescue them today" and done something immediate. They were in TROUBLE, after all. But that Allah did it slowly. He had a prophet be born and waited for him to grow up, and really set the scene and the circumstances. Then it all came together in His time. So I always try to remember that, suphan Allah.

Ginny's Questions

2005-03-12T13:47:00.000-06:00

Ginny,

AsSalaamu Alaikum. Here are your interview questions!

1. What is the best and worst thing about living in Tenessee?

2. Do you like strangers offering you help on the street or does it make you uncomfortable? Do many people do so?

3. What would be your dream job?

4. Were you scared when you went to Gambia?

5. If you could be boss of the world for a day, what would be the first three things you'd do? (Everyone has to listen to you and money is no object)

Interview Game Rules

2005-03-11T08:04:00.000-06:00

THE INTERVIEW GAME RULES:

Here's how you can play the interview game:

1. Leave me a comment saying "interview me." The first five commenters will be the participants.

2. I will respond by asking you five questions.

3. You will update your blog/site with the answers to the questions.

4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.

5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions. (Write your own questions or borrow some.)

Interview Invitation

2005-03-10T21:17:00.000-06:00

OK, so now I'm playing the interview game, too. The first five people to post "interview me" on the comments section, I'll interview.

Tasmiya's Interview Questions

2005-03-10T16:31:00.000-06:00

The following interview questions are from Tasmiya, a fellow blogging sister from Down Under! Visit her at tasmiya.fektasm.com

1. What sort of environment is for you the best for writing? Did that one even make sense? (Noise, total silence, white noise, food that sort of thing)

I don't care about the environment, I can write anywhere as long as A) there are not dozens of small feet with big voices and even bigger needs calling, "Mom!" "Mom, she hit me!" "Mom, can I feed milk to the fish?" and "Mom, can you help me with this project that involves creating nuclear fission and is due tomorrow?" and B) so long as I have a solid block of time to do it in. I have a friend who writes whenever she has a spare 30 seconds. I can't do that.

2.What's your favourite Surah and why?

Surat al Mu'minoon. It is comforting and full of deep theology. I like surat Maryam, too. Actually, I'm always finishing a surah and saying, "Oh, yeah, this is my new favorite surah." lol.

3. Who has been the most influential person in your life?

OK, this is corny, but it's my husband. He taught me the real meaning of trusting Allah. I used to be obsessed about control and certainty and having everything a certain way all the time. He taught me that control is just an illusion. He always reminds me of Allah when I need it most.

4. What has been the most picturesque place/city/country you've visited?

Montreal. I marched in a drum and bugle corps when I was 15 and we went there. New Orleans was nice, too . And I love New England.

5. If you could be "boss of the world" for one day (no restrictions on what you can and can't do and everyone has to do as you say - you've got political, financial and moral clout) what would be the first 3 things you'd do?

1. De-throne all dictators, both autocratic and democratic (starting with Bush and Sharon)
2. Institute an economy where food and goods are distributed fairly and not by market pressures (this goes hand-in-hand with destroying the interest banking system)
3. Implement universal hijab.

And then...

2005-03-10T07:53:00.000-06:00

OK, so now that I'm blogging I feel this weight of responsibility to write things with meaning and purpose. Things that will be found interesting and will educate people. Except I can't decide what they are. I wrote three different posts yesterday and trashed them all.

Maybe blogging is not for perfectionists.

So I'll start with....

2005-03-10T05:57:00.000-06:00

I decided to start with interviews from other bloggers and go from there. What a fun game!

These questions are from Umm Zaid at http://modernmuslima.com/blog.htm. She's a poet, activist and mom who suffers through winters in Boston now, where she arrived last year by way of the Bronx. She's a long-time friend of mine and a long-time blogger.

1. Why did you choose now to start blogging?

I keep a journal, in which I've written that I don't blog because it seems useless and pathetic...just throwing words into cyberspace . I also harbor a latent fear of the whole internet crashing one day (or at least my blog) and it all vanishing into thin air. But I noticed that people like you, UZ, had blogs with themes, and I've been toying with the idea of starting one for a long time now. When my dh started one for his restaurant (caferumi.blogspot.com) I took the leap. I chose this theme because this is what I always wish i could express to people everywhere. That Islam and Muslims are not what you see on TV.

2. Do you still do doula work? If not, why did you stop? What was the best part of doula-ing?

I don't do doula work anymore. The biggest reason is because my family was not ready for 24 hour stints on their own. It put a real strain on my marriage and the family's schedule. Also, though, an old friend told me, "This midwifery thing is a good thing to do, but it only reaches one woman or family at a time. You write well, why don't you concentrate on that? You shouldn't waste that ability."
Plus also (I've been reading too many Junie B. Jones books with the kids!), lay midwifery is illegal in my state, so it was sort of preparing myself to....do what? KWIM?
The best part was learning so much about the birthing process and seeing so many miracles. Birth really is a miracle every time. And translating was fun. And helping the women shape their memories.
You didn't ask but the worst part was convincing ppl they needed a doula. It was so new then no one knew what it was and thought it was fluff. I did a lot of work for free. Which is why dh didn't have much patience for those marathon births.

3. What has been the best part of Cafe Rumi? The hardest part?

Best is it makes dh happy. He's always wanted to do this. And he's really good at it, masha'Allah. Worst is....the long hours he has to put in. And adjusting to seasonal income, b/c they really do a lot more business in the summer months than when it's cold.

4. Of all the roles you play in life (mother, teacher, wife, etc), what is the most rewarding for you?

After motherhood (for which the reward is counterbalanced by the great responsibility) it is definately speaking about Islam. I live for it. I have a gig coming up for the MSA at Central Missouri State University and I can't wait!

5. If I could travel anywhere.... because ....

Canada, to see Caroline!

Intro and Intention

2005-03-08T21:47:00.000-06:00

Bismillah ir Rahman ir Raheem
In the name of God, the Beneficent, the Merciful

I'm a Muslimah activist, lecturer, writer and mother of six. I designed this blog as a way to express the things I wish all Westerners knew about Islam and Muslims.

When I went to Syria for the first time in 1992 my mom was terrified. "How can you even think about going there? There's violence and danger and political kidnappings...!" Then I arrived in Damascus my mother-in-law said, "How can you live in the States? It's so dangerous. There are gangs and drugs and AIDS..." Such is the power of the media. To create monsters out of completely ordinary people and places..

In a time of war that effort goes into overdrive. Especially when it's a "pre-emptive" war which was sold to the American people on false pretenses. The "enemy" has to be painted in the scariest possible light in order to keep people afraid enough to put up with the injustice and immorality of the operation.

So it becomes easy for regular people to jump on the demonizing bandwagon and dwell on the "otherness" of an entire group of people. And Muslims are partly to blame because we haven't been active or vocal or visible enough in our communities. Unfortunately, when 9-11 occured most people had a void in their brains where information about Islam and Muslims should have been. That made it easy for a president with an agenda to come in and paint images of scary bearded terrorists who "don't value life the way we do" lurking around every corner and in every mosque. But the reality of Islam and the point of view of the average Muslim is very far removed from what is portrayed by the media and the current administration. I hope to give people a glimpse of it.

Please don't hesitate to leave your comments. Thanks.